You Are The Company You Keep

Jumpsuit- Mr Price/Kimono- Mr Price/Shoes- Mr Price/ Lipstick- RiRi Woo by MAC

 "You are the company you keep" is a saying I have heard way too often and I'm sure you have too. I never really understood the importance of the company you keep. I was never a teenager that really succumbed to peer pressure, I always found myself being the "odd one out" and I actually embraced my individualism. So what was the big whoo haa? I didn't understand how another person's actions could have an effect on me and my actions... Until now. 

 As I am getting older, I am less tolerant to bullshit. I am in a space in my life where if someone does not add value to my life, I do not want them in my life. Full Stop. As young people, we tend to (secretly) want to be accepted and liked, we care waaay too much about what others think of us and put too much value on toxic relationships. Get rid of the leeches in your life, get rid of the people that just take, take and take from you and have nothing to give. Get rid of the emotionally dependent friends that become emotionless to your feelings. You know, that friend that is always bombarding you with her/his problems and can go on and on for decades, but cannot give you the time of day (and ear) when you need them. JUST GET RID OF THEM!

 I know I may seem a bit blunt but I cannot stress enough the importance of keeping positive people around you. People that uplift you when you are down and are there when you need them, people that are able to tell you the truth even when you might not like it,people that you are able to cry with and still be able to laugh until your tummy is in knots. When I started paying more attention to the people I allowed in my space, I realised I was giving a lot of my time and energy to people that simply did not deserve it, so I let that well run dry and went on my way. I keep my circle small, which has resulted in a drama free and peace filled life. As young people, we need to stop being people pleasers and selling ourselves short for other peoples gain. Make the decision on who you are going to allow in your space and who you are going to give the 'DO NOT ENTER' sign to. 

 The Look

Seeing as kimonos are certainly on trend at the moment, its only fitting to do an outfit post with it being the star item. Kimonos are just so easy to wear and elevate a simple look. Even though its easy to wear, it still looks so effortless but also adds a sense of chicness to the overall look. 

 Please do let me know what you guys think of this look and if you have any views on the importance of the company you keep. I love hearing from you. 

                                                                                 XX

                                                                                  K

Its Not All Peaches & Cream

Denim Shirt- Faded Glory/ Scuba Leggings- Topshop/ Sneakers- Nike AirMax( sold at Nike stores)/ Watch- Michael Kors

I have come to the realisation that there are many people that have preconceived notions about Fashion Blogging. Let me be the first to tell you that Its Not All Peaches & Cream. I have only been blogging for a couple of months and even though it hasn't been that long, I have experienced my full share of crappy situations. Some people may think that all fashion blogging is, is looking pretty and taking pictures- but that is only a small portion of it. Let me give you an overview of typical experiences that fashion bloggers go through.

Most of it is actually sitting behind a computer, cracking your brain over ways to produce the most intriguing and wonderfully written content and top quality pictures. There's also the hassle of trying to find a committed photographer ( that being maybe your mom, your best friend, your boyfriend or all of the above) because not all of us can afford a professional photographer or have a friend that is a photographer that is willing to take your pictures for free. Unforeseen circumstances arise, such as when your boyfriend has something come up on the morning of your shoot and cannot get out of it, and your best friend being M.I.A. These, my friends, are situations many bloggers find themselves experiencing frequently and there is nothing we can do about it at that time.

Then there's the HTML Coding Horrors. Before I started blogging, I was unaware of the fact that so much work goes into designing your blog the way you want it to look. I literally sit for hours on end trying to add a feature to my blog via HTML Coding and sometimes feeling so defeated but never giving up. There are few things as satisfying as the feeling of victory that washes over you when you succeed, its a wonderful feeling accomplishing a task that you thought you could not accomplish. I have a new found respect for fashion bloggers and those that do it so damn well and make it look so effortless. 

The reason I chose to highlight these points are not to rant and complain, because even though it gets difficult at times, I love every moment of it. I just want to shine some truth over the common stereotypes against fashion blogging and to tell you guys that it really isn't easy. Fashion blogging ( and blogging in general) is time consuming, requires endless dedication and patience, and feels like a full time job. As I mentioned earlier,  I haven't been blogging for that long so I know there are more of these minor hardships that await me but I am so ready for them. Blogging has literally been one of the best decisions I have ever made for my life and I am so eager and excited to grow in this sphere and reach new heights.

The Look

I have never been a sneaker kinda girl, like ever, but as of late I have been loving the sneaker trend. Now that I have found ways and style inspiration on how to style sneakers, I am all for them now. You don't have to have the tomboy sense of style to wear sneakers, they look just as good with a pretty dress or a mini skirt. They add a sense of edginess to a typical girly look. This oversized denim shirt is my FAVOURITE shirt,and.... Its also my dads LOL. I went from sneaking into his closet, wearing the shirt when he was not around and putting it back as if it was always there, to permanently keeping it in my wardrobe. I doubt he even realises its his shirt, which is all the better for me *wink*

If you have or had your own ideas on what fashion blogging entailed, I would love to hear them. Also, if you are a fashion blogger and would like to share some of your experiences, I would love to hear from you too :-) 

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                                                              K

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Rips & Tassels

Denim jacket- Cotton On/ Boyfriend jeans- Mr Price/ White T-Shirt- Mr Price/ Boots- Timberlands/ Sunglasses- Raybans ( Sold in Sunglass Hut stores)

I am almost done with my studies and that means entering "adult world" and beginning my career. I am at a stage in my life where I am not quite sure what my next step is going to be. I have always been a long term planner,But for some reason I have not quite figured out the steps I have to take to get to where I want to be. I know the destination, but I am uncertain about the path I need to take in order to get to that destination. Does that make sense?

 I just feel so anxious and confused. I suppose I feel this way because I am such a control freak and the thought of not knowing what is going to happen next gives me major anxiety. Family and friends can put so much pressure on you. "So, what are your plans for the future?" "Where do you plan on working?". If you don't have the answers, or the answers that they were expecting, then your future doesn't seem so bright. Should I really have everything figured out at 21? Deep down I know I don't have to have everything figured out, but the thought of leaving my life to fate is scary. I have come to the realization that I have to learn to be content and trust that everything will work out the way its suppose to. 

 Lately, I have been doing more formal polished looks, so I figured I should take it down a notch and do more of a laid back look but still with some edge to it. Boyfriend (ripped) jeans are still very much on trend and don't seem to be going anywhere any time soon. A good pair of boyfriend jeans can be so versatile, it should definitely be a staple piece for every season. I love the tassels at the back of my stone-wash denim sleeveless jacket, cowgirl vibes LOL. 

 Let me know if you guys like this look. Also, I'd love to hear about your experiences on transitioning into a new stage in your life. 

                                                                                                                    XX 

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Shades Of White

Shirt- Urban/ Blazer- Mr Price/ Skort- Cotton On/ Heels- Payless

 It has been so hot these past couple of days, and I am loving it. I have decided to live a more active lifestyle because besides it being good for your overall health,I really want to get my body right for summer. I went for a morning run a few days ago along the promenade and it was so amazing, I took a few minutes just to marvel at our beautiful ocean and realized how lucky we actually are here in Durban. I find it easier working out In the warmer months than the colder months. The sunny weather just motives me to go in harder. Right now, I am sipping on some detox water and have the kettle on for a cup of green tea. I try to have at least one cup a day of green tea, I really dread it because i find it to be so disgusting. I gulp it down while lukewarm then rush it down with juice. ( Dramatic I know). 

 Okay,let's talk about the look. There's something so powerful and sophisticated about an all white look. Besides the caution of trying not to get any stains on it, its an amazing way to stand out without being over the top. Some might feel that rocking an all white look isn't worth risking having to deal with a lipstick stain on your top ( which most likely happens) or a patch of foundation from that girl that decides to give you a tight hug because she was oh so happy to see you. Iv had this happen to me. SO NOT COOL. But one must take the plunge sometime. 

I came to the realisation that you guys may not know much about me, so i have decided to do the #20FactsAboutMe tag exclusively for my blog.

Side Note: I just would like to thank you for all the support. It means more thank you guys know and I hope this blog,along with its content, will keep you coming back for more.

 20FactsAboutMe

1- I don't drink coffee

2-I have really bad sinusitis. Spring is the absolute worst season for me because of all the pollen

3- I am a TV series addict

4- Had my first kiss at 16 

5- I love dancing. Actually wanted to become a dancer when I was younger but my mom was not hearing any if it. 

 6- I don't smoke nor do I drink alcohol

 7- I am in my 4th year of my studies 

8- I am the eldest of 5 children 

9- my mind is always on overdrive resulting in me suffering from insomnia frequently and feeling exhausted the next day

10- I hate horror movies, don't see the point in them 

11- My boyfriend is Sotho

12- I am an active member of the "Free The Nipple" Campaign ( Bras are overrated) 

13- When I meet someone new, I get so wrapped up in conversing with them that I tend not to ask what their names are, let's just say things get a tad bit awkward when I bump into them and have to introduce them to the people I am with.

14- I hate wearing heels ( Actually can't walk in them)

15- I'm a loner 

16- I talk to myself a lot and find it completely normal. ( I heard through the grapevine that intelligent individuals do so as well)

17- I am extremely ambitious

18- I did storytelling in primary school and won competitions. Oddly enough speaking in public gives me major anxiety 

19- I'm a bookworm 

20. I'll be 22 next month on the 27th. *cues Taylor Swift- 22*

XX 

K

50s Inspired With A twist

Top & Skirt- Mr Price/ Sunglasses- Mr Price/ Earrings- Mr Price/ Clutch- Mr Price/ Heels- Footwork

I have to say, this is my favourite look yet. I feel as if this is a transition of some sort for me. I really feel that I am discovering my personal style and continuously finding ways of straying from my comfort zone, but still remaining true to myself. How do I brand myself? What do I want to be known for? How can I prevent myself from being predictable? These are questions that have been dancing around in my head for a while now, and I am glad to say that these questions are now being answered.

I am really loving Nicholas Coutts capsule collection for Mr Price. Pastels, amazing silhouettes, sports luxe and touches of metallics some up the collection. His silhouettes are so feminine but have edge to them, I just had to own an ensemble from this amazing collection. This season I am all for 'matchy-matchy sets'. They are pretty and playful and so versatile, you will definitely get a great amount of use out of them as you can pair the top and bottom with different items from your wardrobe.

I was going for a 50s vibe with a twist, with this look. This is definitely something I have not done before and I love that. I hope you guys are enjoying my posts thus far. I really feel I am finally coming into my own with blogging and I am extremely excited about the future and what lies ahead for Kotton&Silk

XOXO
Kendra